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In Love? EXPRESS IT

Yes, this is a love tip. After pauses, sometimes I feel I need to write on this topic. I am getting so many mails from “Broken hearts” for the solution of their problems and asking me to start a dedicated section for them so that people can ask me about their problems. So here is the link to the Solve Your Love Problems section.

Anyway, lets get back to the topic I was telling about. Love, is a feeling which can make your life the most beautiful thing for you or even can make a mess out of nothing. The main thing is what you are expecting from it. Love can not be defined, it can not be forced and you can not just go and get your boy/girl into your life. It is something unconditional and without and boundaries.

When you are in love, the first thing you should be clear about is that it is LOVE, not infatuation or attraction or crush but true and pure love. To find out if you are really in love please think of the following questions and answer them. You will find if you are in love or not. Give one point for every “YES”.

1. Do you see his/her physically or photo everyday in morning?
2. Do you want to call him/her when you are excited about something or feeling lonely?
3. Do you send him/her ecards or hardcovers cards telling you are missing him/her?
4. Do you see him/her in dreams?
5. Do you give kiss when you are about to sleep? (It is not important that s/he knows about it.)
6. Do you wait for him/her photo upload on social networking websites and try to be the first one to comment? Yes this is funny but a nice way to find out.
7. Do you get jealous when s/he praises someone else?
8. Do you want to just listen to him/her without saying a single word?
9. Do you have his/her picture in your computer/phone/purse?
10. Do you remember his/her phone number?

If you answer yes for 7 out of these 10 questions, dear express your love. Propose him/her. Please do not hide your feelings in you and tell him/her that s/he mean something to you. Now sometimes the case may be like this also that s/he is in love with someone else and you just do not want to mess his/her life but you, on the same time, are not able to control your emotions. In such condition, you should express your feelings in front of someone mature enough to suggest you what to do. Try to get information on how s/he reacts to the situation if something happens like this. If you find s/he may get furious and can break relationship with you, do not wait and tell.

Confused? Do not get confused. If s/he do not know, you will keep on getting closer and closer and will make situation more miserable. Once s/he know let him/her decide what to do. Is s/he is mature enough, s/he will tell you what s/he feels about you and will tell you to stop thinking about him/her. There can be 100s of people out there who are in one sided love and end up with very bad situations as they do not tell what they feel.

Another thing which can happen is his/her lover can try to mess with you. Do not feel bad or over react in such condition. It is you who created problem for them. So just calm down and talk to him/her and tell that you are not going to create problems with them. Try to be as friendly and calm as possible. This will help you and them to get out of the situation and will help you in to continue the friendship.

Now, what if s/he just go out of your life? What is s/he do not want to talk to you? Do not feel bad and let it be like this. Let the things calm down and then talk to him/her. After making things go in the way the person in front of you, never expected to be, you can not make everything normal in one go. You have to be very careful for every step you make.

And if, you are afraid of doing all this. You feel you should not do this, then you can just sit and watch your feelings just getting deeper and deeper. In such case please make sure you do not regret in future for not even expressing your feelings.

Be a good lover and admire him/her the way you want. Do not make their life hell by keep things secret and allowing room for the chance that they come to know about your feelings from someone else. This may harm your relationship more than you can harm it by directly telling him/her.

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